This is a guest post by the man who showed me his world through his words, and with whom I showed my universe through my travels.
Thank you, Dilman Dila. I owe you one.
Some people travel for fun, others for business, others want to stay in a new place long enough to learn the language and cultures, while others just whiz through like tourists. There are many kinds of travelers. Some do it just within their small towns, others revolve around their countries, some like to go across universes, while some like to travel into the spirit world.
So what kind of traveler should you date? One of the above, or someone who thinks she fits into all those different categories. If the latter, then she wouldn’t really be just a traveler, but a kind of Indiana Jones, an adventurer, a thrill seeker, a troublemaker, a romantic. And the best thing about dating a girl like that is that she won’t be hesitant to explore. To discover new worlds. To love strange men with strange histories and obscure futures. For to her, loving is not a way to get married and have children and settle down in a man’s home where everything is catered for, whether she works or not. To her, loving is a way to rediscover herself—to explore her soul and unveil new talents and new ambitions that she never thought existed.
She is like a raw piece of clay: show to her a new world and she will want to go into it. She will want to walk into your own world, see what you do in there, and want to be a part of it—and what better way to make a relationship last forever than to do things together.
|Lake Victoria, Uganda|
She may be gone for days and months, off to see another strange place in the planet. Off to work in weird countries where they smear themselves with ash instead of wearing clothes, and where they kill each other over cattle. Or live in the place of ancient kings and queens.
|A cattle camp in South Sudan|
|Fasiladas Castle, Gondar, Ethiopia|
Or she could be gone for a few hours to explore the mysteries of the Mekong Delta, where blood flowed like part of the river, or maybe to check out the tunnels and caves—though she is claustrophobic—or to see genocide sites. She could be gone to the exotic restaurants of Thailand, gold palaces in Laos, the ancient temples of Cambodia, the cremation sites of Nepal. She would kill to see the romantic beauty and mysterious flow at the source of River Nile, for the otherworldly experience of an African safari, or just lounge under the sun the whole day in a tropical beach. She will boast about hanging out with the holy sadhus, crossing the equator, or touching a rainbow—literally.
|Floating “restaurant”, Bangkok, Thailand|
|Ecounter with a sadhu, Kathmandu, Nepal|
|Touching the rainbow, Murchison Falls, Uganda|
|Elephant walk, Murchison Falls National Park, Uganda|
|Nalusuan Island, Cebu, Philippines|
But you know that she’ll always be back, sometime or the other, with new experiences, new insights, and the small gifts she brings you from those weird places. The earrings, the shirts that look like dresses, the jeans that are too short, the packed foods, the arm bands, the emails from fellow travelers who she discovers share a similar interest with you, the photos of animals mating in style— well, the small gifts she brings back that will make you love her even more, for you’ll know that in all her travelling, she had you in her mind. And you’ll know that your relationship will never go cold, but will get fresh fuel every time she comes back.
|Fewa Lake, Pokhara, Nepal|
Yet, the best thing about dating a traveler is that you will not have fights about what to do on your holidays. A simple “Let’s go check out this rock island that birds drench with their shit” will get her blood boiling. Or maybe a “Let’s go see the Himalayas” will make her grinning from ear to ear for the rest of the year.
|The Himalayas Mountain Range, Nepal|
You can be sure she will use your gifts and be very thankful for it—if it is a ticket to a place she has never been to before. (You know those moments when you buy your girl a necklace and she wears it only in your presence? You will never have those.) You don’t have to spend an entire day in the market sweating over whether she will like this dress or that diamond ring or this shoe. All you have to do is close your eyes, spin a globe, stop it, and point your finger—wherever you pick, she will certainly like the tickets to it. And what pleases you more than to know she will definitely like your gift and love you for it?
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